There have been times in my life where I’ve been at a fork in the road. It hasn’t always been the most pleasant of destinations, unfortunately. For those of you who have been there, you can understand and relate to this.
The fork in the road is where crucial, life decisions are made; do I leave or do I stay in a job, a relationship, a city, or a home? I’ve always found them to be life altering IF you take one of the paths in front of you.
There have been times where I’ve sat at that fork in the road and chose not to make a decision, which is a decision in itself. When I look back now, I realize the decision, no matter how long I wanted to avoid making it, came either with my eventual choosing or with the force from the universe. One way or another, the intended road, whether you were ready for it or not comes and it’s not always in the form of gentleness. Sometimes I’ve been surprised by the level of vulnerability that it leaves me in. And then I realize that no matter when the decision was made, whether I made it for myself or not, it was indeed the path that was meant for me.
The path had lessons, sometimes years of lessons before I met up to that fork in the road once again. At times I’ve realized that I may have saved myself some additional heart ache, or experiences I would have preferred to avoid, and then the reality is, the time wasn’t right for me to make that choice, then. Nor did I have the strength to make that choice.
Here I am, today, knowing that all my choices have brought me to this space in my life – some of it amazing and some of it mediocre. Today, I realize that choices for a great life are always available.
I realize all those life lessons I should have learned from, but at times, I easily forget when caught up in the whirlwind of life. Everyday though, I marvel at the strength I have to continue my dream of being a business woman, and even though I’ve been tempted several times to get a job, I realize that my dreams die with this level of conformity.
Inside of me, I can hear the thumping of my heart, beating quietly for dreams I have accomplished, and dreams that remain on my vision board of life. Being a business woman is one that always remains and is forever engrained in my being. I wouldn’t trade one moment of this self-employment ride for a 9-5 job. I know in the end, when that fork in the road materializes – take a job to pay the bills or work harder at the business – the business woman in me will prevail. It’s a calling that excites me each and every day.
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We’ve all been in those situations before. We’ve struggled and persevered and given everything we can to a situation and just can’t seem to either get ahead, put the pieces back together or figure out a positive solution.
What can you do to finally find the solution?
It’s time to surrender.
This doesn’t mean to give up. It simply means time to let go, step back and detach from the outcome.
There are so many forces at work in the Universe that we can’t begin to know all of the connections and karmic ties that are floating around with us.
In many situations, if you are having an issue with a friend or close relationship and there are pieces that you just can’t manage, often times it is because there is a karmic piece that needs to be fulfilled and you won’t be able to get in the middle of that.
Other times, it is your opportunity to learn what you need to.
A Course in Miracles says that every situation is an opportunity for growth. Everything is a Spiritual lesson that is offered to you to bring you more awareness, consciousness and enlightenment in this lifetime.
Sometimes it’s difficult to be open to another growth opportunity, but if we are able to let in a bit of possibility, you may be pleasantly surprised at the outcome!
Speaking of outcomes, it’s time that we stop trying to control the outcome of every event, emotion and situation.
If we are able to transition to thinking about our lives as a whole lot of situations for growth that we just happen to move through (and yes, this is a pretty transformational thought process that takes time to adjust to), then we are able to have a more peaceful existence without such strain, anxiety and worry.
All stress and anxiety comes from projecting ourselves from this very moment into a place in the future that we are unsure of. If we are able to stay in this very moment here and now, there is no worry or tension because this is all we have and all we are.
When we start thinking about future events, and what may come of various parts of our lives, expectations, and possibilities, we are then back to trying to control the outcomes of various situations and this causes a terrible amount of stress.
For example, have you ever had any of these thoughts?
• Ohh, I need to get my oil changed in 500km. I have no time to schedule anything else in my life!
• We need to stop renting and buy a house. I don’t know how the market will be in 4 months. Maybe we should try to buy something now. But we don’t have enough for the down payment. I hope we can buy our dream home.
• I need to invite my in-laws for dinner this weekend. What will I serve for dinner? I have to clean the house. I need to go to the grocery store. I have to get the laundry done.
These are just the smaller day to day stresses that pop up, never mind the major life changing situations and traumas. But you get the idea. You can feel the anxiety beginning to creep into your mind and flood through your body at the thought of these situations.
Can we change our mindset? Surrender to a greater philosophy?
• Whenever my car needs service, I’ll find the time. Maybe my partner can take the car for me. It’s okay, I’ll deal with it when it comes up.
• I am perfectly happy and secure in our apartment. When the time comes to purchase our dream home, I know the perfect house will be waiting for us.
• I’m looking forward to spending time with family this weekend.
Just a simple mindset shift and you have surrendered the outcomes, and you can again begin to enjoy the present moment, by moving away from stress!
Jo-Anne Richardson, Registered Holistic Nutritionist & Energy Medicine Practitioner
Jo-Anne works with Fournier disAbility & Health Management Solutions to provide online education for clients and patients. Her interest in healthy, joyful living is demonstrated in her writing, coaching and teaching. Her goal is to improve the health of her community by empowering you with knowledge, support and new ideas.
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What is your internal dialogue saying? What has become the internal “record player” of your subconscious mind that informs your consciousness? What do you “listen to” inside of your mind all day?
Many people experience thoughts of not being good enough, feeling judged, feeling unworthy, unheard and even unloved. But in reality, many times this pattern has been developed through several isolated experiences throughout life, and the subconscious has held onto these unhealed circumstances. This continues to inform you of un-truths in present day and affects every aspect of your life.
Let’s take a few minutes to re-write the story that plays in your mind. We must over-ride the conversation, because the majority of the storyline is fear-based. You may just have the same old story accidentally stuck on repeat, and you’ve never taken a minute to really question those old words. Chances are, they are no longer true (or never were!) and you now have the conscious ability to press EJECT (on the tape cassette) or DELETE (if you’re digital!!)
5 Truths you need to hear EVERY Day! (Okay, 6!)
You are enough. You always have been. It’s time to realize that everything you do is amazing, but it’s about BE-ing. Your being, your very existence is enough.
You are so loved. Not just by your children, your significant other, your family, your friends, your co-workers, your neighbours but by the ENTIRE UNIVERSE. And, your SELF.
You are more valuable than you realize. Every day you touch the lives of so many in numerous, precious ways. Begin to notice your own compassion, empathy and generosity in exchanges with others, and appreciate yourself how others do.
You are needed. Not just in a physical way, as in “Mom, I’m hungry!!” But in a way that the universe has placed you here right now for specific reasons that we may not fully understand or be aware of yet. Your very existence is on purpose!
You are so beautiful and shine with love. Your energy is a gift to others, and your inner spirit glows from your human body and illuminates the world with your love.
You are worthy of abundance, health and love. Accept the good things into your life. Open to them, as they are waiting to appear. And they are most likely to appear when you are in APPRECIATION of yourself and in LOVE with yourself!
Now it’s time to write your very own love letter to your SELF. Write to your inner spirit, that powerful person inside that may have forgotten how amazing you are. Tell yourself all of the things you love about YOU! Tell YOU how strong and beautiful you are. Tell YOU how you are smart, gifted and compassionate. Make a list of your skills, strengths and successes to prove to yourself that you have valuable assets. (And if you have trouble getting started, copy down the list above to get you going!)
BUT remember that this love letter is only a stepping stone to switch the dialogue in your mind into something more positive, to live with on a daily basis. Because you are ALREADY PERFECT exactly how you are!! You just need to realize it.
Jo-Anne Richardson, Registered Holistic Nutritionist & Energy Medicine Practitioner
Jo-Anne works with Fournier Homeopathic & Integrative Health to provide online education for clients and patients. Her interest in healthy, joyful living is demonstrated in her writing, coaching and teaching. Her goal is to improve the health of her community by empowering you with knowledge, support and new ideas.
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