I think we are all vulnerable – especially to what scares us the most. Whether this be the potential for true love, a career that we would love to have or just to be ourselves, each and every day. It is our vulnerability that keeps us stuck, when our heart truly wants what is right in front of us. Often, we are too scared to reach out and grab it because it just seems too far or too unattainable or more succinct, we don’t believe we deserve it.
I’ve struggled with vulnerability my whole life, like many of you have. I still do on some days. Anyone who tells you otherwise, isn’t being authentic. It’s okay to be vulnerable. It’s what makes us humans. What you do with it makes all the difference in the world.
Be scared all you want. Keep all the fears you have. Be vulnerable. Don’t tell anyone. Stay the course or better yet, do something about it. Tell only one person that understands how you could possibly feel. Get out of that rut and live the life you were meant to live all these years. Invest in your life by taking action.
It’s all too easy to stay the course. Why should we change? Life has been ‘fine’. No great highs and no great lows. Everyday is the same. Why rock the boat?
We rock the boat so we can live our life to the fullest. It’s so much easier to just keep going on the path of least resistance than it is to reach out and say, I want that, or I want him or I want… We think life is easier if we keep the stress out and our vulnerability in but it doesn’t offer us the best life possible. We exist versus living. We survive rather than thrive and we settle versus fighting for what we truly desire in our hearts.
Take your vulnerability on a ride of a lifetime. Invest in yourself and in a coach that can get you from where you are and what you have to where you want to be and what you wish for. Life ends way too quickly for some, and those of us still here, must excel to live a vibrant journey chasing our dreams well others have been denied that extra time. Don’t waste it settling for that rut I call vulnerability.
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There have been times in my life where I’ve been at a fork in the road. It hasn’t always been the most pleasant of destinations, unfortunately. For those of you who have been there, you can understand and relate to this.
The fork in the road is where crucial, life decisions are made; do I leave or do I stay in a job, a relationship, a city, or a home? I’ve always found them to be life altering IF you take one of the paths in front of you.
There have been times where I’ve sat at that fork in the road and chose not to make a decision, which is a decision in itself. When I look back now, I realize the decision, no matter how long I wanted to avoid making it, came either with my eventual choosing or with the force from the universe. One way or another, the intended road, whether you were ready for it or not comes and it’s not always in the form of gentleness. Sometimes I’ve been surprised by the level of vulnerability that it leaves me in. And then I realize that no matter when the decision was made, whether I made it for myself or not, it was indeed the path that was meant for me.
The path had lessons, sometimes years of lessons before I met up to that fork in the road once again. At times I’ve realized that I may have saved myself some additional heart ache, or experiences I would have preferred to avoid, and then the reality is, the time wasn’t right for me to make that choice, then. Nor did I have the strength to make that choice.
Here I am, today, knowing that all my choices have brought me to this space in my life – some of it amazing and some of it mediocre. Today, I realize that choices for a great life are always available.
I realize all those life lessons I should have learned from, but at times, I easily forget when caught up in the whirlwind of life. Everyday though, I marvel at the strength I have to continue my dream of being a business woman, and even though I’ve been tempted several times to get a job, I realize that my dreams die with this level of conformity.
Inside of me, I can hear the thumping of my heart, beating quietly for dreams I have accomplished, and dreams that remain on my vision board of life. Being a business woman is one that always remains and is forever engrained in my being. I wouldn’t trade one moment of this self-employment ride for a 9-5 job. I know in the end, when that fork in the road materializes – take a job to pay the bills or work harder at the business – the business woman in me will prevail. It’s a calling that excites me each and every day.
Schedule a chat with me, even if you aren’t quite ready to start your own business. Keep your passion alive by taking small steps towards its conception. You won’t regret it!
How many times in your lifetime have you uttered those few words?
I think too many times, if you are asking me.
I’ve done it millions of times I’m sure of it. How do I know? It’s my ‘go to’ answer for everything. Why? Because it’s no one’s business but my own, how I’m really doing. I don’t want to talk about it one more time to one more person, or in my case, to the same people that love me and support me each and every day.
I would rather tell a stranger that I’m having a crappy day, than someone I care about. After all, I support them. I shouldn’t expect anything in return. Right?
I have to say though, that this gets tiring. There are days when I just want to say the absolute truth.
The truth is some days just SUCK! Sometimes it’s weeks on end, or months and in some cases it feels and probably is, years. Yep, I’m tired! However, there is one thing that makes all of this just okay and sometimes enlightening. You could say ‘okay’ isn’t enough and I agree, however enlightening is enough.
I absolutely refuse to give up on my dreams. I refuse to live a life of mediocrity. I refuse to be average. I refuse to be like everyone else, in a dead end job, in a dead end relationship, and accepting my status quo rather than fighting for what I believe I deserve.
Some days I doubt what I truly deserve and I make a mess of everything. I doubt, I second-guess myself, and I don’t follow through on anything that is of worth to me in my life and on those days I give up. Tomorrow is always another day to do better and on those days when I’m really tired – tomorrow is a lifesaver.
Tomorrow, I go about making my dreams come true because I’m still not prepared to give up.
I have a friend Joyce that bought me a picture years ago with a saying on it – I hang it in my living room where I see it everyday. It reads:
‘No matter how impossible it may seem, never underestimate the power of a dream.’ (D.Morgan)
What are you doing about your dreams? Are you choosing to settle? Have you given up?
Mel Robbins, in the video attached, talks about the odds of anyone of us being born and alive.
She says the chances are 1 in 400, 000, 000, 000, 000 and most of us spend our lives wasting it rather than seeking out why we are here on this earth at this time. We squander this miracle by not realizing our potential. Are you one of those people? If you are, get your SHIT together, and make a move. Your time on earth is short. Don’t waste it in some useless job or unfulfilling relationship.
Make your heart soar by going after your dreams. Don’t give up.
At Fournier Coaching, we help you transition into a life you love. I’ve been there. I know what it takes to develop a career that you love and a life that you are happy to lead. I know the fears you are facing. I know the work involved to be successful. I did it. You can do it! I can help. It’s up to you. Call me!
I decided when I was 38 years old, that I was going to put my dream of working for myself into action. I was tired of changing jobs every 2 years, not really building a career but job-hopping instead. Within 2 years of thinking and dreaming of working for myself, I did it! And 17 years later, I can say I’ve had the time of my life! I would not trade it for the world.
However, in the last couple of years, business has been far more quiet then I’m accustomed to, so I decided to fill up some of my time by getting a full-time job, while waiting for more contracts. I worked full time during the day, and managed my business during the evening and weekends.
I didn’t feel any different being employed than I did years ago when I gave up working for someone else, and here’s why:
•When on salary, all the extra hours you spend working aren’t compensated for
•You use up all of your energy during the day to have none left for when you get home
•Work seems to think they own you by expecting you to have a work phone, where you answer phone calls and emails when you aren’t supposed to be working
•You work with people who prefer you don’t think for yourself, so they can make all the decisions for you
•You have to work for too many micro managers with power struggles that are trying to make a name for themselves
•There is never anytime for a coffee break or lunch to fit into your schedule other than those sips or bites before dashing to another meeting or task
•Being 2 minutes late can be an issue but taking a sick day is even more of an issue
•There is a lack of respect for the years of accumulated experience and education, especially if you don’t have a title
•You begin to believe the pay cheque, benefits and pension plan is something you just can’t live without
I’m here to tell you that you can live without all of the above and get everything you ever desired, from owning your own business. It does however take a leap of faith to get you going.
I was a single mom raising two children on my own, in a city that I recently moved to. I had no other source of income – just my pay cheque. The work dynamics were not great for me at all. I thought there was more to a career than thinking I have another 40 years of working for this employer or any other. There is a lot more out there in life for you but you need to let go of the old way of life, and the old way of working, to transition you to a career and business you would love to wake up to every morning.
At Fournier Coaching, we help you transition from work to your own business. I’ve been there. I know what it takes. I know the fears you are facing. I know the work involved to be successful. I did it. You can do it! I can help. It’s up to you. Call me!
What is standing in the way of you reaching your dreams? Are there areas in your life that need just a little bit more attention that would make all the difference you have been wishing for?
Whether you want a transformation in your health, your business, your job, your family or with your closest relationships, there are two things that can transform your whole world in as little as just 2 months!
Transformation Tip #1: Put Yourself First
I know, this sounds harsh and downright impossible when you have a demanding boss, young children to care for and a spouse to cherish but this is the most integral part of your whole transformational journey. Even for a small window of time every day, you must put yourself first. You have to set some time aside for yourself to allow the incredible YOU to emerge (or re-emerge).
What area of your life is ready for transformation?
Take steps to ready yourself for these changes and then fly! For example, if you are wanting to experience a health and body transformation, you must put yourself first long enough to carve out a window of time to joyfully move that body and prep some healthy meals.
If you’re not quite able to wrap your head around putting yourself first, focus on the fact that your family will benefit from having the best version of you, ever!
If you are developing a new soul business, you must find time in your day to put yourself first, so that you can make waves with your new venture! And again, any benefits you are experiencing personally, will naturally trickle out to your family and friends.
Take some prime transformational time to devote energy to yourself and your desires, because we often let ourselves have the left-over minutes of the day, but by then, we are usually exhausted and have nothing left to give to ourselves.
Transformation Tip #2: Act as though your transformation is complete!
If you were already at your perfect body size and shape, what would you do to maintain it? If you were already eating a clean diet, it would be easy to stay on that eating plan.
If you already have a thriving business, what would you be doing to keep it producing? You wouldn’t be worrying about the small details and getting caught up on the day to day things that make you busy, you would be focusing on the larger visionary pieces that make you money!
Create space in your life to envision the things you want the most and then take these two steps to make it happen.
Just imagine how much your life can change in a very short period of time if you take these tips seriously. And think about how good you would feel NOW if you had only started 2 MONTHS AGO!!!! So start now. You will thank yourself for it!
Jo-Anne Richardson, Registered Holistic Nutritionist & Energy Medicine Practitioner
Jo-Anne works with Fournier disAbility & Health Management Solutions to provide online education for clients and patients. Her interest in healthy, joyful living is demonstrated in her writing, coaching and teaching. Her goal is to improve the health of her community by empowering you with knowledge, support and new ideas.
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Lucie M.H. Fournier RN, COHN(C), BA (Psych)
Founder/Human Development Coach & Workplace Health Strategist
Lucie M.H. Fournier offers one on one sessions, personal mindfulness coaching, soulopreneur business coaching, and half day or full day transformational seminars for your employees and/or management.
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